Have you ever realized why you feel too good when people boast you?
In fact, it's not only that you feel too good when they boast you, the truth is that you also expect them to boast you for whatever you do. So, you are the one who create that boasting for yourself in order to get that great feeling of pride. This means that you need appreciation from others for whatever you are doing. In other words, this mean that you depend upon others.
But the question here is that for how long you will depend upon other people in order for you to get that great feeling?
What if other people don't appreciate what you are doing?
What if other people stop boasting you?
Do You Know Why Do You Feel Too Good When People Boast You?
Have you noticed that when people boast you, how you feel?
You feel as if you have accomplished something and not only that, you also feel superior compared to other people. You go on boasting yourself in order to show that you have more power.
You go on comparing yourself to others so that others can feel inferior. You say to yourself that you can do this and other people can't.
This way, you are creating another thing in you which I call the 'Ego Challenge'. What is meant by Ego Challenge?
The Ego Challenge
Ego Challenge means the fight of the ego. When your ego has come to the peak, then you want to challenge other persons' ego. It is the fight of different ego. You think that you are challenging other persons but rather it is your ego which is challenging other persons' ego.
So, what happens when the Ego Challenge is on?
If you are nourishing something in you that you want to show to others, then know that you are not nourishing it for yourself. The fact is that you are nourishing it in order to make other people feel inferior. This is an intention that you have created in you. It is not a good one and is not good for your own inner growth.
So, this means that you don't care about yourself rather you care a lot about your ego. You want to work a lot in making it stay at the peak always. Even if you create a prison for yourself, it doesn't matter to you.
You go on challenging other people's ego and each ego wants to show that they are superior than the other. This goes on and on and create so many negative thoughts and negative emotions.
Due to this Ego Challenge, hatred and violence are born.
So, is it a good thing to go for the ego challenge?
Definitely not.
If ever you are expecting others to boast you and they are rather saying wrong things about you in return, then what is your reaction? Have you realized that?
You become so angry, frustrated and also you nourish so many negative thoughts about them. Finally, you create more enemies than friends. This is because your ego is hurt and want revenge.
So, this is why you must not go for an Ego Challenge. The best thing to do is to go for an Inner Transformation.
Inner Transformation
Do you know the energy that you waste in the ego challenge can be used in your own inner transformation? You can use that energy to strengthen yourself not the ego.
So, don't try to show people who you are instead correct your own mistakes. Don't show people that you are stronger which is totally false because it's your ego which is stronger not you.
When you are strong, then you will find that there's no need to make a show off for that. In fact, it is a great inner transformation in you that doesn't need to show others. It's for yourself only. You just be and that's all.
Different Types Of Boasting
First of all know that boasting means appreciating someone's work and telling it to that person but there are also different types of boasting. This is what you will learn here.
- If you have worked hard and your superiors are boasting you. Here, it means that you really worth it but it must not make any difference to you because you made lots of effort for that. As per the efforts you have put into that work, you have already got your fruits in return and that is Self-Satisfaction. If you are already self-satisfied, then when people boast you, it doesn't make any difference to you. You are in a neutral state. You are not proud about yourself rather you have attained what you wanted to. You have known your capabilities. You have known the step to step process of how to be successful in whatever you do. All these are enough for you. You know yourself already. Then what other people say to you doesn't make you feel anything. The result is already within you, so it's not necessary to get it from outer level.
- People boasting you just for their advantage only. You do something great and expect other people to boast you but know that you will meet with different types of people too. There are those who really appreciate for what you are doing. They are grateful to you and will support you sincerely. But there are also those who only boast you in order to take advantage from you. They want to get something from you and that's all. They will talk nicely to you but at your back, they will talk wrongly about you. So, when you will be in problem later, these types of people won't be found helping you. They will stay away from you then. Only those who support you sincerely will be with you in whatever situation you are. So, see to it what kind of people you are dealing with and not only that, you will have to be aware so that other people don't take advantage of you. Be that sharp that you can know the intention of people who are coming to you and if they are coming with a bad intention, then avoid them. Be able to choose the right friends and be with them always whatever happens.
- You boast yourself. It happens so many times that you will see people boast themselves a lot. They want to show that they are better than others. For that they will go to whatever extent needed. They will even go on the wrong path. So, know that boasting yourself doesn't mean you are boasting you directly because you as you are, you don't need any boasting. The fact is that it's your ego who needs that. Your ego wants to get boasted and also makes you expect boasting from others. When you boast yourself, then you want other people to listen to you and you also think that you are really a great person. But do you know what other people really think about you when you boast yourself? The fact is that they ignore whatever you say about yourself because they know that you are boasting yourself. Sometimes, people even stay away from you and ignore you. You may be thinking that when you boast yourself, you are showing that you are stronger or more powerful than others but you don't know that you are at the same time weakening yourself. Yes, you are weakening yourself and strengthening your ego. Know that whenever you feel proud about yourself this means that you are weak.
The Tricks Of The Ego
So, it's not you who are feeling too good when people boast you rather it's your ego who is proud about that. Your ego goes on fooling you but you are not aware of it. It gives you nice feelings such as happiness, excitement, pride and so on just to fool you. Know that the same ego will give you sorrow, fear, hatred, jealousy and more after that.
The ego goes on changing it's styles of working with you. It knows when and how to fool you. You get fooled by it very easily and you are not even aware of it. So, it's time to surrender your ego and be yourself.
Happiness Is Your Greatest Weakness
So, what is your greatest weakness here?
Your greatest weakness is to be happy. Yes, happiness is the greatest weakness because it is the one which makes you do anything in order to get it. Your ego manipulates you by making you feel happy for some time only till you get addicted to it and you want more.
When you are in such a situation that you want more happiness, then you go on doing all sorts of things and mostly wrong things. You go on being possessive not only for material things but also for people.
So, if you are in search for permanent happiness, know that you are in search for permanent weakness. It may sound awkward to you but this is the truth only.
You can search for permanent awareness, bliss and peace because they are the ones which will make you stronger.
So, what I want to tell you hear is that stop boasting yourself or feeling proud when other people boast you because you are not being yourself when you do that. You are just showing the other you here. The more you work on yourself, you will find that the ego will be weaker and you will be stronger.
The best thing is that you have to be stronger and sharper not your ego.
How about you?
Are you working for your own inner transformation?
If you have any question on this topic then feel free to ask in the comment section below and I will come back to you.
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