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Wednesday 13 June 2018

What Makes You Think That Self Help Books Are A Waste Of Money?





Self Help Books

 Why do you think that Self Help Books are a waste of money? Have you ever read one before? So, what makes you think that Self Help Books are rubbish?

 There are many people out there who think that Self Help Books are a waste of money. They think that they are rubbish and these books should not be considered. Obviously, there must be a reason for it and the main reason here is that you didn't agree with whatever is written in that book which you have read. You have your own opinions and you think that your opinions are the best. This is one of the reasons but there are many other reasons too. 


Why Do You Think That You Should Not Read Self Help Books?


The first thing that you need to know is why was there an urge in you to read a Self-Help book for the first time. There must be something in you that is eager to know what is there in a self help book, right? Or, you may want to learn something that you can apply on yourself for your own inner transformation. You may also be looking for solutions to your problems. You may be looking for something to motivate you as well.


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So, when you first buy a self help book, you want to know what is there so special in it that most people are talking about. When you open the book and you start reading the first four to five pages, you find out that you are not finding what you really want to learn.

You feel like the book is boring but still you have the expectation that there must be something to learn in the pages which you haven't read yet. So, you try to read the rest of the pages of the book too. Finally, when you have finished with the book, you find out that you haven't learned anything new which could be of your help.

Self Help Books


What you do is that you criticise the author of writing that book which you find useless. You think that you have wasted your money and energy on that book and you regret about it. This is your first experience with a Self Help book.

So, due to this experience, you are not ready to spend money again in buying other self help books. You say to yourself 'It's all rubbish so why do I have to buy Self Help Books'. You go on talking about it to your family, friends or colleagues. This way, you influence them too of not buying this type of books.

This means for you only one experience is enough to judge whether Self Help books are worth it or not. Have you forgotten that you have had several experiences in life? You made mistakes in life and you know that you made those mistakes but why do you still continuously made those mistakes again? Haven't you learned your lessons in the first mistake itself?

The Fact About Why You Think That Self Help Books Are A Waste Of Money


The truth is that yes, you haven't learned your lessons with the first mistake and this is why you continue on making the same mistakes till you come to realize it. For some people, it takes only one experience to learn a lesson but for other people, it takes several experiences to learn a lesson. 


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This is due to the level of understanding. If you are not being able to understand that it was a mistake, then you are definitely going to do it again. This is because you don't find it to be a mistake. Your thought tells you that it was not a mistake. So, you can argue with other people too in proving that you didn't make that mistake when you did it really. This is because it takes long time before you realize that you were wrong.

All these happen just because of your understanding level. Till you don't work on your understanding level, you won't be able to learn your lessons. You won't be able to understand Self Help books also.

So, let's come back to the self help book you read. What was wrong in that? Why you were not satisfied with it? Why was it rubbish?

Do You Know What It Takes To Write A Self Help Book?


There are authors who can take a year, months, or even weeks in order to write only one book. This is because they make a lot of effort in accumulating ideas, solutions to problems and more and that also after doing do many researches. Their only mission is to share what they have discovered and thus, they want to make other people know about it. 

In fact, you are free to either buy their books or not. You are the one who has to take that decision. No one must force you for that.


Self Help Books


There are even a few authors who can author a book in one day only. This can happen only when there is a direct flow. The direct flow is so quick that one needs to type quickly or write quickly. This direct flow doesn't come from outer researches. It comes from within that author. 

It comes from Awareness. This flow is not ideas or thoughts. This flow comes from total emptiness. The flow comes out from emptiness and go directly on the paper. It doesn't pass through anything else. Nothing is planned here although everything is perfect because whatever is written in that self help book is only the truth and also the right ways to help other people.

So, as you can see, the problem is not in the author. The problem is in your level of understanding. I don't say that you are wrong. I accept you as you are but the only thing that you need to understand is that if you are not understanding something, then you need to increase your understanding level. Don't judge a person. Find out first why you didn't understand while other people who bought that book can. Find out what is missing in you.

You will find that most people have the habit to make other people responsible for that which they don't agree. They don't even realize that the main problem is with themselves. If you don't agree with something, it's fine but don't accuse anyone for that. It can also mean that you didn't understand that properly. There is a problem in your understanding.

So, never judge a person or even a self help book. If ever  you really find that that self help book didn't help you, then you don't have to judge it rather you must forget about it. Just accept that that book was not made for you but it is appropriate for other people.

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What Self Help Book Is Appropriate For You?


This means that not all Self Help books are appropriate for you because each of them are authored as per each person's level of understanding and are meant to each person's level of understanding too.

So, you may be wondering which Self Help Book is appropriate for you?

It is very simple. Just read the reviews of the self help books and when you find out that there is one which you agree with, then know that it is made for you. This is because whatever you agree with has the same level of understanding as you.

The fact here is that whatever you read and understand, it means that your level of understanding and what the author has put in his or her self help book have the same level of understanding. So, you and the author have the same level of understanding and that's why you agree with what that author has written.

So, as you can see, it's not the author of the self help book who is wrong. It is as per your level of understanding.

I remember, in the past, I bought a famous book which has over 1000 reviews and a lot of 5 stars. At that time, I thought that if it has so many reviews and so many 5 stars, then it must be a great book. I, too, followed the crowd and bought that book. 

But when I started reading that book, I didn't understand at all what the author wanted to teach in that. The fact was that the English words that he used were too difficult for me to understand. It would have taken a lot of time and energy for me to go and look into the dictionary for each word and try to understand the meaning of each sentence. This way, it would have took me months to understand that book. 

So, what I did is that I read only 2 pages and didn't understand anything. Then, I didn't waste my time and energy on that book. I kept it in a corner in order that I could gift someone who can understand it. 

The fact is that that book was not made for me rather it was made for other people of the same understanding level as the author. So, why do I have to judge that author? The problem was with me only. I could not understand the difficult words in English and thus found that book difficult for me to understand. So, this way, I made the wrong choice here.

Although I wasted money on that book which didn't help me, it didn't matter because that money helped that author to prosper in life. He might have used it to buy something to eat or spent on the expenses he had. So, in other words, I didn't waste my money rather I was working on my generosity level in order to help that author.

This way, the money that I wasted on that book became helpful to me in increasing my level of generosity. In other words, I can't say that that book didn't help me as although I didn't read it, it made me go more in depth in being more generous. This is a great way for an inner transformation.


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So, as you can see, there are many ways to see things in life. There are many ways also to understand things in life. What doesn't work for you doesn't mean that it won't work for other people too. 


How To Motivate Yourself

It's not that when you blame yourself, you have to be with it only. Let this blame motivate you to become a better person. 





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