How To Go For A New Relationship?

How do I go for a new relationship? What if the person is not trustworthy? What if he is not the one I was looking for? What if he is not the one who I was expecting to be with? What if he turned out to be a liar?

There are so many questions that come to your mind when someone approaches you for the first time in order to be in a new relationship. You ask yourself so many questions, why? It's very simple. It is just because you don't want to commit yourself to someone and waste your time and energy if he is not the one you wanted to be with. 

But how will you know that he is not the one? That's the confusion you have, right? Here, you will find the right solution for it. So, continue on reading and I am sure that this time, you will know what to do if ever this happen to you or even if it's happening.

How To Go For A New Relationship That Will Last?

If you are looking for a new relationship to last, then there are many things that you should know first. Relationships are not like objects that you can buy and then throw later. They are very delicate and sensitive because here, it means life, people. It is about the other person's lifestyle and habits and also so many other things.

I know that you have so many reasons about why you should go or not go for a new relationship. In fact, there are many factors which you should consider. If ever you want to go for a new relationship then these are the ones that you should consider.

1. Understand yourself. How much do you understand yourself? This is very important because first of all if you don't understand yourself then how will you come to know what you really want in life? How will you come to know what you really want in a new relationship? So, understanding yourself will help you in solving your problem which concerns new relationship. Another thing is that you need to understand yourself in order to be at ease with the one you are about to be connected with.
2. Watch your emotions. If there are any emotions which are emerging then try to understand why and what for. Don't let yourself flow along with them because you never know they can guide you on the wrong track. So, be aware of what kind of emotions they are. The emotions can be of fear and even the feeling of insecurity. So be sure that you are stronger than your emotions.
3. Don't expect the other person to understand you. What we see is that most people have many expectations and this is why they suffer a lot. Expectation is the main obstacle in relationships. When you expect the other person to understand you, this means you are creating problems for yourself and for the other person too. Know that if you have not been able to understand yourself then how is it possible for you to expect another person to understand you? So, to expect anything from other people even if they are your dear ones, is the greatest obstacle for both of you. This means, you must not expect him to make you happy or even for any other things. 
4. Be independent always. Even if you are into a new relationship and it is working that doesn't mean that you have to depend on him. Be independent so that if anything happens in future, you won't feel it as a great loss for you. When you are dependent upon a person, then you create not only expectations but also attachment. You expect that person to know what you like and what you want even when you are not saying it. You also expect the other person to give you lots of gifts or make you happy in different ways. If ever that person is unable to do so, then you create so many negative thoughts and emotions in you. So, as far as you are independent, it is best for yourself because you don't need anyone to be happy. You can create happiness yourself. You can get whatever you want on your own as you don't depend on anyone. Yes, you need someone in your life but this doesn't mean that you should not be independent. So, make it a must that you rely on yourself mostly.
5. Accept the person as he is. If you are going for a new relationship, then learn to accept that person as he is. Don't try to change him or make him as you want him to be because then he will be an imitation not natural. You will then imprison him and after some time he will feel suffocated. 
6. Give him space. Space is very important in a relationship. Don't ask him to be with you all the time because he may want some moments for himself or some time to be with his friends or relatives or even parents. Know that he may have other responsibilities too and you are not the only one for whom he must find time for.
7. Be natural and be yourself. Don't try to change yourself because of him. As you accept him as he is then he must also accept you as you are, then only this relationship will work otherwise there will be lots of ups and downs in this relationship. When you are being yourself and also letting your partner to be as he is, then there will be freedom in the relationship. You will have your space and your partner too will have his. So, this way, your relationship will not be a suffocated one. You will be able to breathe freely.
8. Know the person well before committing yourself to him. It's very important to know that person well enough before you commit yourself to him. This is because you have to give time to yourself and him too in order to know each other well enough. Don't be in a hurry. You will also come to know about his behaviours and attitudes. If ever you find that his ways of living life is not a problem for you, then only you can go in approving this relationship.
9. Don't judge the other person. If you find that the other person is not your type after being with him for some time, then don't judge him because you have to accept him as he is. He can't change himself because of you. In fact, he may try to change himself for you but it will be superficial. This is because there is great difference in changing a person and a person working on his own inner transformation. When you try to change a person, it won't work. Only inner transformation can work. So, if you find that the other person is not your type after some time, then just move on. Don't waste your time and energy by being with him. There is more better opportunities waiting for you.
10. Be aware of whatever you do. Always work on your awareness so that you can help yourself in any situation. By being aware, you will be able to take the right decisions even in relationships. Your life will be easier and you will make the life of your new partner too easier.

So, as you can see, there are so many things that you should consider in order for that new relationship to work for the best.

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How To Go For A New Relationship Without Any Hesitation?

Are you hesitating to start a new relationship? But why are you hesitating? 

Know that when you are hesitating to go in a new relationship, there is certainly something stopping you from within.

What is that?

Definitely, you will find that it is your thoughts. Your thoughts are telling you the following:

1. What type of person is he?
2. Is he going to bring happiness in my life?
3. Is his age a problem?
4. What if he is not clear about the relationship? 
5. What if he is targeting to spend some time with me and then leave me?
6. What if the person is not trustworthy? 
7. What if he is not the one I was looking for? 
8. What if he is not the one whom I was expecting to be with? 
9. What if he turns out to be a liar?
10. What if he doesn't like me to do what I want?
11. What if he isn't faithful?
12. What if later he rejects me?

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In fact, there are so many questions that are going on in your mind and this is the things that are stopping you, that are creating that hesitation in you in going for a new relationship.

These thoughts are provoking you in such a manner so that you drop down the idea of going into a new relationship and it is also making you feel insecure in connecting with the other person. 

So, as you can see, it is these thoughts that make you feel insecure and thus, you hesitate to take the right action. This way, you are not able to go for new relationship. You feel frustrated and also inferior.

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This is why in order to go in a new relationship, the mind is not needed there. You are needed to be there for that relationship. If you can be yourself and not your mind, then only you will be able to go for that new relationship without any hesitation. 

You will not worry about the questions mentioned above. You will be ready to take that risk because if you don't try it then how would you know if this new relationship will work or not?

Know that if you go and meet the other person with an empty mind, then you will feel free and you can be yourself. You will show only who you are. You will not try to change yourself in the presence of that person.

You will act naturally without any hesitation. This way, the connection with the other person will be easier. It will be as if you know each other since a long time. You will ask questions without any hesitation and even give answers to whatever questions the other person asks too. You won't hesitate to tell the truth about yourself.

So, you are being clear to whatever you say. You are showing yourself as you are to the other person. You are not hiding anything. This way, it will be very easy to go for a new relationship. 

You don't mind what will happen after, whether this new relationship will work or not. This is not your problem. For you, what you are doing now is more important. So, it's more important to be in the now and live it to the fullest rather than trying hard to secure a new relationship for the future.

Know that a relationship can be only in the now not in the future because no one has seen the future. If future doesn't exist, then why securing a relationship for later? Why thinking about whether the relationship will work or not?

Learn to accept things as it is. Now, it is working, so let it work and be in it to the fullest. If ever later it doesn't work, then also accept it as it is and move on. Don't create scenes or more problems with it. 

It didn't work, so what? Life continues. More opportunities will appear. You will meet with more people. So, anything can happen and whatever happen happens for the best only.

If you are separated from the one you loved, then it had to happen because there is better opportunities coming your way. You don't have to cling with the past. Just open your eyes and seize that which is yours.

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